Hinge is one of the many dating apps that try to offer something different for those who are tired of the same old Tinder treadmill. It works pretty much the same but offers a few neat features that can help you interact with someone you love. Chatting and reaching is still the same but has a little more potential. This page will show you how to message Hinge, both its mechanics and a few ideas on what to say.
Hinge is very similar to Tinder in that you create a profile card that others may or may not like. Where it differs is more in the social media aspect. Instead of looking and then swiping left or right, you can like or comment on any aspect of their profile. Therefore, if there is something you like in one of his photos, you can comment on it. Do you have a common hobby? You can also comment on this.
This system gives you a lot more room to interact with people rather than just that opening line. This is good. If you’ve used Tinder before, you’ll probably be thrilled to see someone reach out to you after hundreds of ‘Hey’ comments or worse. Hinge tries to be different.
Sending a message on a hinge
While the hinge is different in some ways, it is the same in others. For conversation, this sameness is a good thing. Someone can’t start a real conversation without you liking them. They can comment on your profile at any time, but cannot chat until you like it.
You can like a profile by selecting the heart icon to chat on the hinge. If they like you, the Connect option will appear. Select this to open a chat.
Alternatively, you can comment on any aspect of a profile, images, description or anything. The other person then has the option to interact with that comment and start chatting from there.
When a conversation starts, you take turns as usual. If it’s a conversation between people who like each other, you might get a system alert saying it’s your turn to respond. Hinge wants you to keep talking and move on to better things.
Hinge Messaging
As with any dating app, what you say in the opening has a huge impact on whether you get a response. You need to remember why you are at Hinge and consider the bigger picture. What do you think this person would appreciate in a comment? How would they get the ‘X’ comment or the ‘Y’ comment. Spending even 1 minute thinking about how your message or comment will end up with that person will place you head and shoulders above the majority of dating app users.
Pacing is important when messaging in dating apps. You don’t want to attack with both barrels and ask them out before you know anything about them. You don’t want to quit for so long either, they think they’ll never be, and they move on. It is also almost impossible to judge the right time.
Still, there are signs that someone is interested in you. You can use them as a good barometer of your emotions. They are interested if they put real thought into the answers. If all you get is ‘haha lol’ all the time, you’re a loser. If you’re getting the same detail in the responses you posted, you’re doing better.
Emojis are also usually a good sign. Although we use them a little too much, they are an excellent way to express emotions without being direct.
Finally, if they’re asking you questions in addition to answering yours, that’s also a good sign. Only people who are genuinely interested in someone who takes the time and energy to learn about them.
If you’re seeing any of these in your conversations with someone on Hinge, you’re on the right track. Once you have a short chat and a free flow of conversation and learn a little about each other, this would be a good time to ask them out.
The perfect soft date is meeting up for a coffee instead of dinner. It’s less formal, easier to administer, and less burdensome than a full dinner date. You can even say ‘meeting’ instead of an appointment to remove some of the weight that comes with this expectation and the word ‘date’. All will help them by saying yes.
There is no magic formula for hinge or any dating app. Just be yourself, think about the big picture and the person behind the profile, be honest and respectful and you should do well!
