Can you find someone who doesn’t have an account on Bumble? Can you check if they are using dating apps to cheat without joining your partner or partner yourself? Is there an app or technique to see if your other half is using Bumble, Tinder, or one of the other dating apps? These questions are typical of the questions we hear every day, and I think it’s time for us to answer them.
The short answer is no. There is no known mechanism to tell if someone who does not have an account or does not have access to an account is on Bumble.
Bumble and other dating apps are designed to be independent ecosystems that you have to be in to win. If you could freely check potential matches without having to use the app, that app would quickly lose its appeal. There are websites that claim to offer a glimpse into people’s dating profiles, but I haven’t seen one that works yet.
There are also services that offer to find and identify people using their digital footprints. These will include dating apps and websites. They do cost money though. If you’re sure your partner is cheating and you really need peace of mind or confirmation of your suspicions, try Buzz Humble or similar services.
Signs that your girlfriend is cheating on a dating site
If you don’t want to pay for the privilege of knowing if your partner is cheating, or if you can’t justify non-trivial online detective expenses, you still have options. You can look for signs of cheating and go from there.
None of this is proof per se, and a single wrongdoing doesn’t mean they cheated. One or more signs over a period of time may require deep and meaningful conversation. This is entirely up to you.
They don’t let you use their phone
My wife uses my phone all the time. It has a faster and much better camera than his. As a kind of selfie addict, he always uses my phone to take pictures of himself and his dog. If I suddenly stopped giving the phone to him and unlocking it for him, that would be a sure sign of something.
Whether something is cheating is debatable. Someone who is usually open and free to let you use their phone, but suddenly more private, definitely has something to hide. It might not be a bad thing, so don’t blow up just yet.
They check their messages much more often
Few of us can hear the sound of an incoming message and wait minutes or hours to check. If your partner is one of them and suddenly jumps on every message, things have changed. If they don’t share the message or if they just smile and delete it when they read it, something is going on.
Again, it can be anything in itself and not necessarily a bad thing.
They start going out more or find excuses to drive you home.
Changes in social behavior are usually driven by something and are rarely random. If your partner suddenly starts going out with their friends more or wants to go out alone to a place you normally go out together, something is wrong. It could be a new hobby, club or friends, but it could also be something else.
On its own, it may be nothing more than an embarrassing Dungeons & Dragons habit or a newfound love of line dancing, but it could be more.
Hiding bank statements or secrecy about finances
There are ways to pay for Bumble or other dating apps without leaving a trace, but most people don’t know or bother with them. If you’re both usually open about your finances but suddenly not so open, they may be hiding a paper trail.
Any odd payout of $9.99 a month could be a sign that they’re on a dating app. It could be something else entirely.
There is no sure way to know if your partner is cheating on Bumble without an account or access to an account. There are signs though, and these are the most common. Again, it’s worth noting that these signs are just that. They are not evidence of cheating or even wrongdoing. They may be planning a surprise party, an offer, or something that your partner is embarrassed about.
This entails a conversation in which you express your fears to them and highlight the changes you notice and ask them what’s going on. Based on their answers, you can make an informed decision about what to do next.