If you’re new to Bumble, some things may seem confusing. You swiped over someone and then that person swiped directly on you. You will then receive a notification that you have a new match! Exciting, isn’t it? But what should you do next?
It all depends on whether you are a man or a woman. Unlike other dating apps, Bumble has slightly different rules: only women can initiate conversations. In this article, we will explain everything about how to chat on Bumble.
Guide for Women
If you’re tired of receiving inappropriate messages from dating apps, Bumble is the safe place you’ve been looking for! Only women have the First Move privilege, which means only you can initiate a conversation after a match. So, even if you’re paired with someone, you still have some time to decide whether you want to chat with them or not.
However, don’t wait too long as you only have 24 hours to start the conversation! After that, your First Move privilege will expire and you will not be able to see the person you matched with. This is one of Bumble’s strategies to encourage you to get to know someone, rather than match up with multiple people every day and never chat with them.
If you were really busy that day, there is a way to extend your match. Both you and the other person can extend the time limit and request an additional 24 hours from Bumble. But be careful because you can only extend one game per day. If you don’t message them within the next 24 hours, the match will be lost forever.
Best Conversation Starters
Many Bumble users complain that ladies just send them “Hey” or something like that and wait for them to continue the conversation. As you know, communication is a two-way street and you both need to put some effort into it.
We suggest you take a look at their biographies. You may find something interesting to help you start the conversation. Check out what your common interests are and whether you have a similar hobby. Also, be mindful of what you see in their photos.
If he has a dog – that’s perfect! You can start the conversation by saying that your dog looks cute or by asking about dogs. If he has been to Paris, ask him what kind of place he is and which places he would recommend. It’s the same if he does some exercise. Men love to talk about sports and this can be a great icebreaker.
Also, Bumble introduced Conversation Starters. When you open the chat, you can choose from many pre-made questions, such as: What’s the best movie you’ve ever watched? They’re perfect for ladies who aren’t used to making the first move.
Guide for Men
You have received a notification that you have a new match. Great! But what can you do now? Unfortunately, not much. As we said, only women can start the conversation. Therefore, you have to wait for the other person to send you a message.
As you know, ladies have 24 hours to send you the first message. If you’ve matched with a girl you like and she hasn’t sent you anything yet, you can extend the time limit and give her an additional 24 hours. However, you can only do this once a day, so think twice about which conversation you’re extending.
You may think this is unfair, but let’s put things in context. Thanks to its innovative rules, Bumble is one of the most successful dating apps around. And while you can’t start talking to every woman you like, think about it this way: you can only talk to girls who are genuinely interested in you.
Bumble believes it’s better to have a quality conversation with one person than to start multiple conversations with women who might not be interested at all. In fact, this feature can save you a lot of time.
What Can Men Do?
While it may seem like women are responsible for everything on Bumble, that’s not entirely true. There are many things you can do to increase your chances of meeting someone special.
Your bio is the first thing women see, so try to make it as good as possible. We are not saying that you should exaggerate and pretend to be someone you are not. However, try to make it original and mention things they can use as conversation starters – books, pets, travel, etc.
When a woman sends you a message, do your best to keep the conversation going. If he is not very talkative, he can be shy. But he made the first move, which indicates he wants to chat with you, but may not know what to write. Now it’s up to you to help him, be polite, and ask additional questions.
A few years ago, Bumble introduced a BFF mode where you can meet people of the same gender. Now, if they’re both men or women, you might wonder who gets the First Move privilege. In BFF mode, both users can start a great conversation.
However, keep in mind that the 24-hour limit applies here as well. If neither of you send a message within 24 hours of being matched, the match will end. Of course, you can use your Daily Extension feature to extend it for another 24 hours.
On dating apps, people often try to pretend they’re perfect. You don’t have to do this because it’s unnatural. If we could give you just one piece of advice, we would advise you to be yourself. That way, you can meet people who will love you for who you really are.
Have you already tried Bumble? Did you like it? Did you meet someone interesting? Let us know in the comments section below.