Bumble is among the most popular dating apps currently available on the market. Its purpose? “To reinvent the old dating rules.” But if you thought it was just “another great dating app”, you’re wrong. This is not just another dating app. Bumble is a dating app that puts women in control.
Women make the first move on Bumble. It is women who have had to ask unique questions, avoid cheesy pickup lines, and go through awkward bouts of anxiety.
And knowing how to start a conversation with men will help many women take the first step.
Asking the Right Questions
No one can really tell you definitely what to ask someone It all depends on the situation. Sure, there are some general pickup lines that may or may not work, but they’ll stick out like a sore thumb. Remember, we are talking about men; they have all embarrassed themselves with a hotline at some point in their lives.
As such, pickup lines are out of the question (with one big exception, which we’ll get to soon). But what questions are left? That’s right, general ones. “How did you find the atmosphere we live in?” “What is your favorite movie?” “Can I take your phone number?” Make no mistake, any of these questions could work on a man. In fact, there are fewer creative prompts to prove successful!
But you’re not looking for that kind of question, are you? You want to be unique and original. You want attention. The bad news is that the magic formula does not exist. The good news – getting into the right mindset will pay off.
Here are some guidelines on how to turn out great openings on Bumble.
Be yourself
This is very easy. Be as unique and original as possible. But how to “be original”? Acting as naturally as possible. Yes, that’s pretty cliché, but it’s important to pay attention to the “as much as possible” part of the sentence. No one is totally cool when they throw their first conversation starter punch. No, absolutely guys. Even those who look cool often use “coolness” as a facade.
But if you want to be unique, you have to use your own personality. How come? because you has matchless. Everyone is.
Therefore, “Do you watch Netflix?” instead of asking. “I can’t wait another week for a new episode, how are you planning to make Skynet a reality?”
Always remember that you don’t have to be overly creative to come up with a unique conversation starter.
Use Pickup Lines
Yes, it is intuitive. The pickup lines are poor, aren’t they? Still, that’s no reason not to get the most out of them. Yes, you can wisely use certain pickup lines to your advantage. Especially considering the fact that you’re a woman. This means that many of these dreadful pickup lines can be really funny.
For example, “Your breasts look like Mount Rushmore – my face should be between them.” For a man to say this – it’s absolutely terrible. We’re pretty sure there isn’t a single woman in the world who would fall for it.
When you use this on a guy, the context is so silly it’s likely to make him laugh. It’s also a pretty unique way, so you get another point for uniqueness.
trust yourself
You’re a girl, you know that self-confidence can be very sexy. While all girls have to do is sit there and be cute, the notion that guys are supposed to be confident is very old.
Apparently, men also prefer confidence. They like to be approached, they like to be appreciated and they like to feel special, warm and fuzzy with butterflies flying in their stomachs.
So instead of waiting on other dating apps for the next lame pickup line, go ahead and make the first move. Be confident and open (to some extent).
“Hey, I love your interest in music. This is a sweet band tee.” or “This biography made me laugh my ass off. you’re funny.”
be humorous
Most men don’t like women who don’t have a sense of humor. But there is no such thing, really – every person out there has a special sense of humor. The thing is, some women don’t choose to show it right away.
This is actually what men don’t like. They are also interested in girls who make jokes and respond to them. In other words, they are looking for a girl who can also be their “friend”.
Word games are excellent conversation starters. Even if they come off lame, in a way, so called to be lame. For example, “I love your dog. Does the dog ask you out?” A cool word game will definitely make them laugh.
be direct
You don’t have to be direct in your conversation starters, but there’s nothing wrong with that. Most people enjoy being approached directly, and men are no exception. If you think you’re the only one who finds online dating awkward and borderline ridiculous, you’re definitely wrong.
Being open and direct about it can work for your potential date.
Consider: “Hey, I find all this online dating stuff weird. Want to get to know each other this week?”
be candid
Some women like to include a full disclosure when taking the first step. Things like: “I just want to be clear on this. I don’t like being called ‘baby’, I’m a democrat and I love punk rock.”
Don’t be so serious. Full disclosure is not a good conversation starter. Be candid, open and direct. Stop getting to know each other for dates.
Taking the First Step on Bumble
These tips will help you be more gentle when taking the first step with the guy you’re chatting with. Remember to keep things clear, direct, fun, and cheerful.
Which approach would you choose when starting a conversation on Bumble? Did you find these tips helpful? Do you have any other advice? Feel free to join the discussion in the comments section below and ask any questions or add any tips you may have.
